Unconscious patterns of self sabotage are often seen as significant impediments to one's success.
Why do they happen and how can they be forever released?
Well in short there are a number of reasons for their existence such as:
1. I don't deserve to be successful.
2. I'm afraid of success.
3. I'm afraid I might fail.
4. Fear of making mistakes.
5. Fear of taking full responsibility for one's decisons and actions.
6. Fear that success will change me as a person.
7. Fear that success will cause others to take advantage of me.
And so on.
All of the above beliefs and feelings are pre-programmed into you from early childhood experiences in your family, or through interactions with others whose confidence you choose to accept. This programming is held deep inside of you and lurks there waiting to be called upon whenever you get too close to success.
In other words it is often two steps ahead of you and waiting to head you off at the pass.
What can you do about these programs? Well first it is important to recognize that they are there, that they are unconscious, that they must be made conscious and that by doing so the opportunity to flush them out once and for all exists.
The fact that they cannot be eliminated if you are not consciously aware of them is very important.
Now all such negative programming is sourced from negative memories that feed and anchor them into your being. These negative memories, by definition, have associated with them painful negative emotions which you have chosen to suppress from conscious awareness. They have been suppressed because you have been afraid of re-experiencing these painful feelings.
So what is being said here is that in order to release the negative programming one must first release the fear of feeling the painful feelings associated with them. Here I will take you through this first crucial step in your journey to success.
So we'll begin with the fear of feeling and enduring painful feelings from the past (i.e. things such as sadness, shame, embarrassment, grief, guilt, anger, etc.)
What is the benefit to you of having this fear living inside you?
Well one might say that the fear allows me to supress these painful feelings out of conscious awareness so that,
I won't have to feel them, so that,
I can achieve a sense of relief, inner peace, a sense of calm, safety, security, so that,
I can function effectively in my daily life and achieve success, happiness and fulfillment.
So in summary one has that:
The fear of feeling and enduring painful feelings from the past causes one to feel a sense of relief, inner peace, a sense of calm, safety, security, achieve success, happiness and fulfillment. I call this the Summary Statement.
Now lets look at the other side of the equation, so to speak.
Allow yourself to reconnect with the fear of feeling or enduring painful feelings from the past.
This can be done by allowing yourself to begin to remember some past painful event and then noticing the fear that ensues as a result of attempting to do that.
As you focus primarily on the feelings of fear notice what these feeings are doing to you.
You may notice, if you are astute enough, that the fear has a paralyzing effect, makes you feel numb or confused, makes you indecisive, leads to feelings of anxiety, physical tension, feeling overwhelmed, weighed down, helpless, hopeless, feelings of dread, depletion of energy and motivation and so on.
So is this fear toxic to you? Absolutely yes!
Does this however correspond to the Summary Statement above?
Well if you assess these closely you'll see that they are complete opposites and hence cannot be simultaneously true. So which is the truth?
Clearly the latter so that makes the summary statement false. If you see this and hence would like to have that false Summary Statement cleared from your life simply assert this to yourself as if speaking from your heart.
Next, recognizing that the fear of feeling one's feelings is toxic you may also wish to release this fear by asserting from your heart that this fear also be purged from your life.
Finally, contemplate how you would rather be feeling and experiencing yourself and your life and if this new state is desirable to you also assert this from your heart and then notice how you feel.
You may, if you've followed this closely, be feeling more energized, buoyant, self confident, alive, present, centered and more like your true authentic self at this point.
This is your first step to being able to truly manifest your full potential through a process I call the Mind Resonance Process (MRP). If you'd like to build on this kindly contact me at the email address below.
Nick Arrizza MD is an International Life, Executive, Organizational and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator who lives in Toronto, Canada. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process (MRP).
A 1 hour free introductory MRP telephone consultation is available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)
Email: drnick@telecoaching4u.com
